What Is A Proposal?
Experiments
There are three arenas for creating what you want:
1. Focusing on other people's feedback about what you should want.
2. Focusing on your understanding of what you want.
3. Focusing on what you want.
Which 'I' wants what?
You need to be able to say, "I want..." because if you are going to hold space for a team, or a project, if you think it is not polite to say "I want...", you you will not be able to hold space for the transformational potential of your gameworld within the presiding field.
Matrix Code PROPOSAL.01
For the next 100 days make proposals for things you want or would like to do or experience in order to explore your fear of rejection.
Document each Proposal in your Beep! Book, and with photos, videos, and reports on your Instagram or Blog site.
After making your 100th proposal, please register Matrix Code PROPOSAL.01 in your free account at StartOver.xyz.
This Experiment is worth 20 Matrix Points.
Your first step in becoming a person who lives a life based on proposal-making is to Shift Identity into a Proposalizer. This experiment is a one-week journey during which you build out and learn to inhabit this identity of Proposalizer.
There are many activities you can engage in to do this type of identity-shifting work. We suggest that you undertake at least four of the activities below daily for the duration of the one-week journey:
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
There are certain magical phrases that, once spoken, frame up the beginning of a proposal. If you have not yet trained yourself in the art of making proposals (few of us have), then you are on the Learning Spiral, and it is time to practice. As you begin practicing, it can be helpful to memorize a few simple, ready-made proposal-opening phrases.
In this experiment, start by memorizing the following 3 proposal-opening phrases:
If memorization comes slowly for you, then write down the 3 phrases on a piece of paper and keep them in your shirt or pants pocket so that you can review them regularly.
After you have acquainted yourself with these phrases, the next step is to bring them into your life. For one week, practice using each of these phrases at least one time per day when initiating a proposal. For example:
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
When you unconsciously complain—that is, when you complain without first declaring a designated, held space that is built for the purpose of consciously complaining—you engage in a form of Low Drama.
Walking into a room and saying, "GOSH, why is it so cold in here?" is a wonderful victim story that invites available rescuers to make a mad dash for the thermostat.
Saying to your partner, "We never cuddle anymore" rolls out the red carpet for all sorts of excuses, defensiveness, justification, and argument.
This experiment is about discovering that every Low Drama complaint is actually a Doorway to a High Drama proposal.
The first step in this experiment is simply to begin to notice when you are complaining. To do this, take out your BEEP! Book, and at the top of a blank page, write, "My Complaints." Then, for one week, every time you notice yourself complaining, stop yourself mid-complaint and write it down.
At this stage, don't worry about turning your complaints into proposals. Instead, just notice and capture in your BEEP! Book.
When the week is over, open to a new page in your BEEP! Book, and at the top, write "My Proposals." Turn back to your "My Complaints" page and look at the first complaint. Now, perform the alchemical act of transforming this first complaint into a proposal. For instance, if your first complaint was...
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
I propose that if you have not completed the experiment in PROPOSAL.03 above, that you do that before attempting this experiment.
If you have already spent a week Noticing and capturing when you are complaining, then your ear will be well tuned to hear when you are about to complain. And if you have already practiced on paper transforming your complaints into proposals, then you will be well prepared for the alchemical act of doing this in real time.
For this experiment, you will vigilantly guard your speech against any complaints for an entire week. Whenever a complaint does arise in you, rather than expressing it the way you would normally express it (as a complaint), you will instead practice seeing it for what it is—a Doorway to a proposal—and you will make that proposal.
It may be helpful to share with the people you spend time with regularly that you are experimenting with turning your complaints into proposals and to ask them to let you know if they hear you complaining.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
This is an experiment for you and your Possibility Team.
For your next meeting, plan whatever you would like for the space, but also invite the team to do an experiment with you around proposals. The experiment goes like this:
During the first third of the Possibility Team, anyone can interrupt the space with a complaint at anytime. Complaints could be things like:
You get the picture.
The important thing here is that during this first third of the space, it is all about complaints. Proposals are strictly banned.
In the next third of the space, reverse this instruction. Now, there is no complaining. Instead, it is all about proposals. If something doesn't work for someone in the space, it is their job to make a proposal. Proposals might be things like:
During the final third of the space, open up a discussion space to share and document insights. Some useful questions during this space include:
After the space is closed, write a two- or three-page article about the discoveries you made about complaints and proposals and how these impact a space.
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This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
As you begin to engage in the practice of making proposals, you may soon discover that when someone makes a proposal to you, the binary responses of either "Yes" or "No" create crude limitations on what is possible. There will be times when you could wholeheartedly say "Yes" if one element of the proposal were different, for instance, but because that one element is not different, you instead say "No."
Learning to make counterproposals opens up a world of Possibility that extends far beyond the horizon of the simple "Yes" and "No."
One of the easiest ways to initiate a counterproposal is by answering with a "Yes, and..." For example, if someone makes the proposal:
You might respond with:
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This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
If you have completed the "Yes, and..." experiment in PROPOSAL.06, the game continues here.
The magical thing about learning to say "Yes, and..." is that you suddenly go from a world where there is only "Yes" or "No" to a world where you can "Yes, and..." your way into activities and circumstances far beyond what once was possible. This even means you can "Yes, and..." your way into brilliant Adventures.
For this experiment, propose to a friend and fellow experimenter that they join you for an hour-long walk with you. During this entire hour, you will both practice saying clearly what you want, making proposals, and then making counterproposals using the words, "Yes, and..." For example:
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
You have Five Bodies, a Box, a Gremlin, and a Being all ongoingly Noticing the world and the people around you. Often, your noticings can be communicated as pressure Feedback or Vacuum questions. What does this look like in action?
Say you are meeting with your team, and one member of your team is being quiet and not saying anything. Pressure Feedback would be telling the, "We are meeting as a team here and you are not saying anything." A Vacuum question might be, "What is happening for you that you are on this team with us in a meeting and you are not saying anything?"
In this experiment, rather than turning your Noticing into Feedback or Vacuum questions, instead allow it to inform you in making a Proposal.
In the case of a person on the team not saying anything, you might instead make the proposal:
"I want your voice to be in the meeting. I propose that every 6 minutes, the team will pause for 30 seconds and give you space for saying anything you need to say. Does that work for you as a proposal?"
Practice turning your Noticings into proposals at least one time a day every day for a week.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
If you have done the experiment in PROPOSAL.08, you have Clarity that every Noticing can be shifted from Feedback or Vacuum questions into a proposal.
In this experiment, spend the week Asking the people around you to give you proposals rather than offer you Feedback. When someone offers you Feedback, tell them: "Your Noticing is valuable to me, but I'm not doing Feedback anymore. Will you offer me a proposal for an experiment I could try instead?"
Doing this experiment for a week might provide you with more proposals for experiments than you can reasonably handle at once. Do not try to do everything. Instead, write down the experiments people give you and work through them one by one over time.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Some gold grows by giving it away. Making proposals, and the experiments described above and below, are exactly that kind of gold.
This experiment is about creating circumstances that allow you to give as much gold away as possible by delivering a two-day Workshop around making proposals. To prepare for your workshop, follow these steps:
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This Experiment is worth 5 Matrix Point.
How do you normally respond when you want something to be different?
Do you slob around in a Low Drama huff? With yourGremlin creating an endless stream of stories of how stupid the other people are and that if you were in charge then of course things would be quite different.
Realising that in any of these situations you could instead make a proposal, begins your shift into being a Person of Agency. Now throughout your life you can ongoingly make proposals and negotiate with the people around you to create the life and experiences that YOU want.
This experiment is to have an experience of changing something through a proposal. Find 3 people and propose to them that you go on a 2-hour walk with you to pick up garbage along the road with you. If they accept then actually make it happen and have the experience. If they don't: negotiate with them or find new people. Do this until you have had the experience of successfully proposing something and making a shift in the world.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Your Pearl is deep at the centre of your Being. Long ago you put it there for you to find. It is a message from you, to you. It contains instructions for your original assignment. i.e. what you came to Earth for.
Opening your Pearl is an Initiation completed during a Possibility Lab. If you want to do this process, please write to the Trainers before attending a Lab to see if it will happen in this particular Lab.
Once opened you can use Your Pearl to make Proposals.
This experiment is for once you've been to a Lab and opened your Pearl. It's to notice for an opportunity with a person or in meetings for your Pearl to speak and make a proposal. It could be a chance for you to complete part of your original assignment with these people.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Bright Principle are archetypal forces of nature such as Love, Transformation, Possibility, Clarity etc.
Each person carries a kind of resonance with a particular set of Bright Principles since their birth. Through the 'distilling your bright principles process' you can discover and jack into these principles so that you have access to them as resources for being your destiny in action in the world.
This experiment is to consciously use your Bright Principles to make a proposal during a meeting.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Every person is connected to a particular Archetypal Lineage that they can put in service to the Village. These are nearly unlimited external sources of inspiration and energy that you can put to use in your projects.
We have discovered that there are 4 categories of Archetypal Lineage.
This experiment is to let your Archetypal Lineage make a Proposal in the next meeting of your gameworld. Notice where something from your lineage in missing in the space.
For example, as a Village Weaver you might notice that connection is missing from the space. You could then propose an Intimacy Cafe to bring people together.
Or are you an Evolutionary and notice that people are carrying resentments of one another? Then perhaps your proposal could be about a Poop on the Table process.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Outschool is a website where you can become a teacher in something that you love.
The fastest way to learn something is to teach it. So here's your chance.
You can build an entire life for yourself teaching the things that you love. Put an enormous amount of non-material value in the world and you will create an imbalance that the universe will need to fill. Think that you need money to survive? If so I propose you do the EHPs, create an imbalance and see what happens. Let us know.
This experiment is to get signed up on outschool.org, become a teacher and teach kids to make proposals.
How would your life have been different if from 8 years old you were able to make proposals about what you want? This is your opportunity to give the next generation a leg up.
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This Experiment is worth 3 Matrix Points.
If you're leaving the 'I need money to live' game then your challenge is to create so much Non-Material Value that an imbalance occurs. As Aristotle said "Nature abhors a vacuum". So the Universe will always fill an imbalance. For example, you might find new projects falling in your lap or $50 bills hidden as bookmarks.
One way to create Non-Material Value is to make evolutionary proposals. You might think you can only do this for projects who are asking for your services. Wrong! You could be putting out proposals to projects all over the world right now create insane amount of value in the process.
This experiment is to find an existing project and make an evolutionary proposal from the outside. See what happens and write a story about the effects.
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This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.
Modern Culture's gameworlds are centered around Hierarchy and Child Level Responsibility.
This does not stop you from making proposals to try to change things. You can make proposals to anyone.
This experiment is to make a proposal to your town council.
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This Experiment is worth 2 Matrix Points.
A traditional Proposal opens the door to incremental change.
A ‘Transformational Proposal’ reinvents the Gameworld or person before you.
It's a clear authentic offer which, if adopted, establish an entirely new basis or context for a gameworld or a person's life.
You might think that the only ways you can respond to a proposal are 'Yes' and 'No'. In fact there is always the possibility of you making a counter proposal. Don't like what you are offered? Then don't be a Victim of that, instead making a counter proposal yourself.
Often people will make proposals to shift gameworlds, not realising that a Transformational Proposal is necessary for the gameworld to flourish. And of course, people's Boxes will avoid the Liquid States and descent into the Nothingness at all costs. This means that without your intervention gameworlds can themselves get stuck in a Box of their own.
This experiment is to notice for people making proposals even if they are not aware that's what they are doing. Notice specifically for the times when they are making a proposal or trying to but when your Archetypal Lineage is telling you that deeper transformation is required. Then pull out your Sword and make the transformational counterproposal.
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Most of us live our lives inside a Box of reasons. There is a reason why you hang the washing out this way. There is a reason why you can't move to Japan. So life carries on and nothing changes.
Being Unreasonable means realising that reasons have little power over you. That you can become free from the manipulating power of reasons.
In every space and context there are those things that are considered reasonable and those that are unreasonable.
An Unreasonable Proposal blasts through the slew of reasons why something can't happen. It is an archetypal gesture about committing beyond the reasonable.
This experiment is to make an unreasonable proposal once a week for the next 3 weeks. Then actually do it even if other people don't do it with you.
You could start by noticing the reasonableness in the current context you find yourself in. Then blast through it!
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This Experiment is worth 1 Matrix Point.
Another example of an Unreasonable Proposal is to make a Pirate Agreement.
Say you have been failing to get up in the morning for the past two weeks. And instead you just end up lying in bed, snoozing away your life. When the pain of this gets strong enough you can make a change. But how to actually keep to your commitment?
Well you could make a Pirate Agreement with a friend. You Become a Pirate and commit to doing something if you do not manage to complete the task. For example, "I propose that if I don't manage to get out of bed every morning this week I'll create a weeks worth of videos describing how to make a healthy routine for yourself." Pirate Agreements can involve forfeits or paying money to charity or you can come up with some other piratey method to make the commitment stick.
This experiment is to make the unreasonable proposal of a pirate agreement with a friend. Decide on your forfeit and shake hands physically or through the zoom screen. Do your commitment and notice how it changes you to keep to something for once in your life.
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Matrix Code PROPOSAL.21
A Proposal has its intrinsic Value from the Nonmaterial Value of the Processes involved, the Matrix being Built, the Power being Flowed, the new Possibility being Created, and so on.
At the same time, the inherent Value of the Proposal can be amplified by adding additional Possibilities into the Proposal. The amplification acts like a lever working against a fulcrum to deliver a greater force than the Proposal would have working without the additional Possibilities.
Adding amplified Value to a Proposal is referred to as 'leveraging' the Value of a Proposal.
Some of the ways to Leverage your Proposal's Value are:
This experiment is to Leverage a Proposal and notice the effects. You could try with a personal proposal or one made by your gameworld to the world or to other gameworlds. Write down what you discover in your Beep! Book.
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